Don’t go by her wise antics as a wife on the small screen, warns Ratan Rajput, who says she is looking forward to tie the knot on Imagine’s “Ratan Ka Rishta: Swayamavar – Season 3″ and wants a “very mature” guy to complement her immature self.
“I am looking for a really very mature and understanding guy because I am not mature enough at all in reality. I am not at that stage right now; so I need someone to fill that space in my life. Ratan jhalli hai (Ratan is not so smart) and she needs a really understanding person to take care of her in every which way possible,” Ratan told IANS in her signature carefree attitude.
“You know, I used to be a last bencher. I never wanted to study. I always wanted to get married since Class 7. That was my dream. And I felt this is the right time for me,” the petite actress added.
Daughter of a retired joint commissioner (sales tax) and a homemaker in Bihar, Ratan is the youngest of five sisters among six siblings. The “aadha darjan ki toli” (half a dozen pack), as she calls it, rounds up with a “doted upon” young brother.
While kids her age were learning to tie their laces, Ratan was one dreaming about her Mr. Right.
“I always used to see my eldest sister (Seema Chauhan) and the way her life was settled after marriage. So I used to be really fascinated by her lifestyle. In fact, I find my jijaji (brother-in-law) as a hero. How I wish he had four more brothers so all of us sisters could be settled,” she said, giggling.
Still grounded in her values and traditions despite the success of her “Agle Janam Mohe Bitiya Hi Kijo” and debut show “Radha Ki Betiyan Kuch Kar Dikhayengi”, Ratan has successfully managed to cloak herself from the Mumbai air, as they call it.
Hailing from Samastipur town in Mithilanchal district, Ratan says that her academics boast of “nothing much but a graduation” in what she calls “home science”. She also joins her hands every second minute to look sky wards and thank “him” for his “blessings and omnipresence”.
“I have always followed this and believed in it that god will make things fall into place. I have never planned anything in life. And I always believe that one should not do anything with even one percent doubt in mind. I am very lucky. My family has always been with me. This decision (‘Swayamvar’) too was taken after discussing with them,” she said.
However, the previous two seasons saw twisted fates in the case of her predecessors Rakhi Sawant and Rahul Mahajan’s marriages. But Ratan is undeterred.
“There is nothing certain in life and when it comes to marriage, whether it is love, arranged marriage or ‘Swayamvar’, I’m confident I’ll get a good partner for life,” she said with her chin up.
“I haven’t seen the earlier seasons but I have learnt lessons from marriages in the society. Marriages work on two people, their families and the adjustments they do and the happiness and low moments they share with each other. I am confident my wedding will be a success,” she declared.
But isn’t she scared of the controversies?
“You know there are no controversies in a marriage but there are obstacles. People just might point something or the other which is just not right in a marriage. And this is not about creating any headlines but having a good partner for life,” the self-confessed immature girl said wisely.
Rumours are also abuzz that her “Swayamvar” just might face delay or trouble due to shooting clashes with her show “Agle Janam…”.
Asked about it, she said: “See for people it might be a show (‘Swayamvar’) but for me it is my life. However, both the things will go hand in hand, and none of it will hamper the other.”
But will she bid adieu to acting post marriage?
“That depends. It will be a mutual decision between me and my husband. Since we’ll be together during the ‘Swayamvar’ for over a month, so may be he will understand that this is my job and I do this for my gratification and not for money. My identity is because of this and even if he is meeting me, it is due to this. So I don’t think there will be a problem as such,” she smiled.